Self Transcendence - Love or to be In-Love

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Self Transcendence 

Love or to be In-Love

As human beings, we achieve authenticity in self-transcendence as we live in a universe filled with never ending questions and answers.  We constantly ask what we want, why, how, and/or where as if we will find a justified true answer.  But we continue to try to be better and push ourselves to reach a limitless potential.  We as people thrive when we find or get answers that give us that feeling of value, pure goodness, and being truly happy.

Happiness is the purpose of life, going back to Aristotle, as we achieve it through the course of our whole lifetime consisting of health, friends, wealth, knowledge, and love which leads to human nature towards the enrichment of human life.  This requires us to make choices, which some may be very difficult.  This connects to pleasure which is different from happiness as it is short lived, more so acquired with substances while happiness is long lived and not gained with materialistic things such as love.

The questions of intelligence, reflection, and deliberation are all parts of self transcendence that reaches a potentiality which becomes love, yet not just the state of love but actually being in love.  My earliest memories of being-in-love dates back to my parents who I really love very much.  I’m blessed, thankful, grateful, and appreciative of having parents in my life that I could look to for leadership, comfort, and more.  They raised me, took care of me, supported me, and taught me multiple things I still utilize in my life til this day.  But “reflecting” towards answering the questions for “intelligence” connecting to self transcendence were that so many of those questions beyond imagination, guessing, ideas, if, ands, or buts at such a young age; they were the ones to give me those definitive answers.  All those cognitive questions of thinking about what if or judging myself is what my parents helped me with growing up.  They made me realize I could be or do whatever I set my mind to and I owe a lot of my success to them when I excelled as I wanted to make them proud.  

When I say I’m in-love with my parents, its a real love that makes me feel happy and always turning to them for the answers that I not just want to hear, but feel.  As intelligence and reflection are portions of self transcendence, deliberation is the moral part as it isn’t just about the questions and answers also it is in the order not of doing but only of knowing.  This is when we want objective value as it creates us as a person in a human society.  We make that careful consideration before making that decision. They were the definition of what I wanted to have in a marriage and showed me how to love not just each other but be there for the whole family.  Its funny when they say your mom knows all because that’s how I felt especially since she was a nurse so whenever I was sick or something was wrong, she was the one to heal me somehow.  When my dad taught me how to play different sports, take us all to road trips to various places, got me into cars, and tinkering with gadgets, I just fell in love with it all as I incorporated everything my dad has instilled in me.

Being a parent myself has made me grasp being a father and that other feeling of being in-love in a different way.  Self-transcendence’s order of intelligence, reflection, and deliberation leading to this feeling of in-love is what makes this feeling so special.  As a parent we try to obtain answers to relate, classify, construct, generalize, narrow down, and explore what we can and could do for our children.  We try to prepare ourselves with classes, books, only to give us information to reflect on only until they are born and it seems like we’re just learning on the go as every child is different.  Thats when deliberation falls into place as we try to understand and live by the answers which can effect our living a moral self-transcendence.  We want to make sure what we are dong is right, worth while, truly good, etc.  Being-in-love as a parent causes us to have conditions that can lead from joy, fear, sadness and so much more.  I obviously want to be the best father/parent I can be and give my kids everything I possibly do to make them happy and keep them healthy plus safe.  They say being a parent wasn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard either.

With my work, I don’t just love what I do, but I’m also in-love with it because I live it.  Going back to prior assignments, a vocation is more than just a career but a calling that you give your heart and mind to.  Each vocation requires talent, desire, and can be difficult to discover but that’s how I fell in-love with my job.  Coming out of high school I was going to join the military not knowing exactly what I wanted to do, but an incident happened with my father who had a heart attack and it changed everything for me.  A male physical therapist was rehabilitating my dad so that he was able to function normally and he didn’t just guide him back, but he looked plus said felt better than he has in a long time because he exercised and watched what he ate.  That led me to pursue Kinesiology, then I ended up landing a job working with the youth as a recreation leader also a coach for basketball at the time which created an opportunity with a school district for me to be a Physical Education Instructor.  I ended up seeing this as a life changing experience as I enjoyed doing what I did everyday as it didn’t feel like work but became a big part of my life as it have me a sense of purpose as if it everything happened for a reason.  The joy it brings for me to see a lot of my students improve not only in their physical abilities but their social and mental capabilities to show emotion of being happy as they succeed in an activity means a lot to me.  I continue to update myself with knowledge to use in my P.E. classes, added on personal training experience, keep myself fit which is a great stress reducer plus confidence booster too.  Being in-love with what you do leads to happiness and makes you enjoy your life more too.

Most of the time the aspect of “love” is usually linked towards another person in a relationship.  You can always love something or another person, but to be-in-love with someone is truly something different and extraordinary.  For my story of love, its as if it was fate or destiny as it goes back all the way to Kindergarten.  She was the first girl I ever had a crush on and the ironic thing was that I was her first school crush too.  We laugh as we talk about how we remember this because we grew up together up til high school, but never dated and we're more like  acquaintances.  Then as we graduated, we went our separate ways until after college we ended up meeting again through social media and started talking therefore led to dating.  Now we have two daughters and we’ve known each other for almost 25 years now… I can’t imagine my life without her and wouldn’t know who I’d be or where I’d go if it wasn’t for her.  She became my life, my queen, and the love of my life.  She sympathizes me and we comprehend each other.  Literally a yin and yang to each other.  The principle of self transcendence involving being-in-love talks about ones desires, values, decisions, and deeds.  We work together and on ourselves to make things work.  I love her with all heart, mind, and soul.  My true meaning of self-transcendence that is thee culmination of being-in-love is with her.